Per Paloma Sacramento, psychologist
They imposed an invitation on us: live with your vulnerability and the lack of control that exists.
O Covid-19, Corona virus or even Corona (for those close to us) imposed an invitation on us to experience our vulnerability up close. He didn't ask if he could come in and have afternoon coffee with us: he simply arrived and imposed changes on our lives.
The lives of approximately 7.5 billion people who inhabit planet Earth have undergone changes in different ways.
This is not the first virus to cause this, and it certainly won't be the last. There are countless other situations that force us to make such drastic changes in our lives – such as incurable illnesses, loss of family members, environmental tragedies and so many others that I could spend hours listing.
This is the first time that our generation has experienced a drama together and it is also the first time that together we have feared for death, for the economic crisis, for the bread that may be missing from our table or for the absence of someone who may not be there. with us in the coming months (and the uncertainty of not knowing if we will be too). We are living in physical isolation, but our emotions are certainly at very close levels. It is not at all risky to say that most of us wake up every day with fear, more anxious than usual, with more homesickness and with discomfort – which, even though it is vivid and intense – is difficult to recognize and name.
We were thrown and locked face to face with our vulnerability and, eye to eye, she has shown us that all the control we believed existed was a mere creation of our heads.
There is no control. Life is unpredictable.
This whole situation causes us grief and each one experiences it in a different way. It can be a grief experienced due to the loss of freedom, time, money, job or people. If you lost something in this situation, you will certainly go through grief and experience the pain of loss. Some will experience it more intensely, others less, some will go through all the stages of grief, others will not. I dare say that most of us are living outside our window of tolerance: we are at our extreme.
So, if you've been feeling more anxious, tired, less focused, irritated, hopeless and worried, it's okay! It's part of that invitation. All of us, on different levels, are feeling this way.
Despite everything, I want to tell you something: this invitation to live with our vulnerability has its good side – and yes, I am one of those people who see the glass as half full. Vulnerability is not negative, as many believe. She is the center of all emotions and sensations and, with it (in addition to fear, guilt, feelings of not belonging and shame), love, acceptance, joy, courage, empathy, creativity, trust and authenticity also walk.
To feel is to be vulnerable.
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